Online Couples Therapy

Relationships Can Be Tough

Every relationship — no matter how strong — goes through hard times. You argue, feel distant, or just stop understanding each other. Sometimes, it feels like you’re not even speaking the same language anymore.

And that’s actually pretty normal. In fact, most couples (almost 9 out of 10!) don’t end up feeling as close and connected as they could.

But it doesn’t mean things can’t change.

So, here’s the good news:
You don’t have to stay stuck in a relationship that feels full of fighting, stress, or loneliness. Getting help from a couples therapist — someone like me — can really make a difference. It’s like having a coach who helps both of you feel heard, understood, and supported. With the right support, you and your partner can reconnect, talk without fighting, and build a relationship that feels safe and strong.

That’s exactly what online couples therapy is here for.

In online relationship counseling, you and your partner meet with a qualified therapist (like me!) in a private, supportive space — from the comfort of your own home.

During our time together, I help both of you:

• Talk and really listen to each other – without blame
• Understand each other’s needs and feelings
• Spend better, more meaningful time together
• Work as a team instead of two people on opposite sides
• Handle conflict in a way that brings you closer — not further apart
• Rebuild emotional connection and trust

We still meet face-to-face — just through a screen. From the comfort of your home.  No long drives. No awkward waiting rooms. Just real conversations that help you move forward.

The therapy I use in couples therapy

When I work with couples, I like to use something called Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT for short. It’s one of the most researched and effective types of couples therapy in the world.

This kind of therapy is all about love — how we connect, how we feel safe with each other, and how we deal with scary or upsetting feelings in relationships. It’s based on something called attachment theory, which just means this:

From the time we’re little, we look for people we can count on — people who feel safe. Usually, that’s a parent or caregiver. If that person is kind and loving, we learn to trust. But if they’re distant or unavailable, it can make us feel anxious or unsure.

These early patterns don’t just disappear when we grow up. They follow us into adult relationships. So if you feel like your partner is pulling away, not listening, or getting angry a lot, your brain might actually panic — like, “Oh no! I’m not safe anymore!”

When that happens, you might:

• Shut down and go quiet
• Get angry or lash out
• Try really hard to fix everything, even if it feels hopeless

It’s not because we don’t care — it’s because we feel disconnected.

EFT Helps You See What’s Really Going On

EFT helps you understand what’s really going on underneath the arguments. It helps you reconnect, feel safe again, and rebuild the emotional bond between you and your partner.

During our sessions I will help you spot those old patterns — the ones that keep popping up and causing pain.

We work together to:

• Notice what’s happening when you’re upset
• Understand the feelings underneath the arguments
• Learn to respond with kindness instead of anger or fear
• Create new, healthy ways of being close to each other

This kind of therapy helps you feel safe again. It’s like building a bridge between you and your partner so you can reach each other, even when things feel hard.

What You’ll Learn in Couples Therapy

Throughout our sessions, you and your partner will learn:

• To see that fights are really about feeling disconnected
• To recognize that behaviors like yelling or shutting down are often cries for help
• To turn toward each other instead of pulling away
• To see each other as teammates — not enemies
• To talk with openness and care
• Share deep feelings without fear
• To really listen, not just “wait your turn” to talk or become defensive
• Understand each other’s emotions
• To create a stronger bond that feels safe and loving

And yes — many couples start to like each other again! Some even say therapy helped them remember why they fell in love in the first place.

Why Emotionally Focused Therapy works

Sometimes couples get stuck in blaming each other:
“She’s the one who always starts fights.”
“He never talks to me.”
“They just don’t care anymore.”

In EFT, we don’t blame anyone. We don’t label one person as “the problem.” Instead, we look at the pattern that keeps showing up between you — the cycle of fighting, avoiding, or misunderstanding. And patterns can be changed.

I help couples gently separate themselves from the hurtful cycle they’re caught in — and start seeing each other in a new light.

Together, we:

• Uncover the emotions behind the conflict
• Learn to express needs without fear
• Create new, healthier patterns of communication
• Rebuild trust and closeness

EFT works well with all kinds of couples, including those dealing with:

• Infidelity or betrayal
• Long-term disconnection
• Depression, anxiety, or trauma
• Parenting stress
• Past emotional wounds

Even when things feel really painful, there are always little moments of hope — what we call “sparkling events.”

Maybe it’s a moment when one of you reaches out with kindness. Or says something vulnerable. Or just sits close, even in silence.

These moments matter.

In EFT, we pay attention to them — because they show what’s possible. We build on those moments, and together we help you create a new story for your relationship — one filled with trust, love, and connection.

And the best part? Studies show that 70–75% of couples move from distress to recovery using EFT — and those changes last.

I’m trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and love helping couples find their way back to each other.

Some Final Thoughts on couples therapy

Relationships are worth working on. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart. If your relationship feels stuck, sad, or stressful — or even if it just feels a little off — therapy can help you find your way back. In fact, the sooner you ask for help, the easier it is to change the pattern.

In couples therapy, we don’t focus on blaming — we focus on understanding.

We look for new ways to connect.

We build a better future for your relationship, together.

Click on this link to learn more about EMDR Therapy that I provide